The Dating Apocalypse vs The Obsession Method: Approach Scripts or Attraction Skills?

The Dating Apocalypse and The Obsession Method are both men’s dating courses sold on ClickBank, but they solve completely different problems. The Dating Apocalypse teaches you how to meet women — approach drills, openers, texting scripts, and a coaching group to ask questions as you practice. The Obsession Method teaches you how to deepen attraction with women you are already meeting — through a specific, appreciation-based connection skill backed by couples research. Buying the wrong one wastes money and time before you even start.

The Dating Apocalypse costs $65 one-time. The Obsession Method costs $69 one-time. Neither difference is large, so the real question is what stage of dating you are trying to improve.

If you want to get better at meeting and approaching women — and need a step-by-step plan for approaching, texting, and follow-up — The Dating Apocalypse is the cleaner fit. If you want to build deeper attraction with a woman you already know or are seeing — and are willing to put a real skill into consistent practice — The Obsession Method is the better pick.

Quick Comparison

	The Dating Apocalypse	The Obsession Method
Best For	Beginners who want approach drills and a step-by-step meeting-women plan	Men who want to build genuine attraction with a woman they already know or are seeing
Core Focus	Meeting strangers, approach confidence, opener scripts, texting	Appreciation-based connection, making a woman feel specifically seen
Core Format	6-module video course (~4 hours) + PDF Field Manual + coaching group	8-module video course (~4 hours) + companion workbook (~50 pages)
Price	$65 one-time	$69 one-time
Optional Extras	$47 texting course (one-time) + $29/mo coaching membership (7-day trial)	$37 “Deep Connection” module + $19 “Relationship Maintenance” bundle (both optional)
Recurring Billing	$29/mo coaching starts after 7-day trial — cancel by email to avoid	No recurring billing at checkout
Refund	60 days, ClickBank-honored	60 days, ClickBank-honored
Gravity	0.11 (low — few buyers tested at market level)	6.35 (meaningful — more buyers tested)
EPS	$832.31	$68.82
Author	Cal Reiner / vendor (unnamed coach team)	Kate Spring

The Dating Apocalypse: Best if you want a structured approach-and-meet plan

Use this if:

• You rarely meet women and want a clear, step-by-step plan for approaching, texting, and following up
• You like learning by video and want short modules in order rather than a 200-page PDF or workbook
• Having a coaching group to ask questions as you practice matters to you
• Modern language — no 2010-era pickup terms like “negs” or “peacocking” — is important
• $65 is comfortable, and a printable script manual to carry with you appeals

The method: Six video modules walk you from mindset to real-world practice — approach anxiety, daytime and nighttime meeting, texting scripts, and follow-up. A 40-page PDF Field Manual gives you openers and text templates you can print and carry. The Facebook coaching group is staffed by coaches and has several thousand members. The curriculum is beginner-level but sequenced, so you always know the next step.

Strength: The coaching group is the main differentiator. If you get stuck, have a question about a real interaction, or want feedback, the group gives you a place to ask. The script manual is a concrete deliverable you can bring out of the house. The modern framing avoids the 2010-era language that puts some buyers off.

Weakness: Gravity of 0.11 is very low — far fewer buyers have tested The Dating Apocalypse than The Obsession Method. Low gravity does not mean bad product, but it means less market feedback. The scripts assume a bar-and-club context that will not fit every buyer. The $29/month coaching membership starts after a 7-day trial and requires an email to cancel — not a one-click option — so set a reminder if you try it.

Cost reality: $65 one-time for all six modules, the Field Manual, and group access. After checkout: a $47 “Text Apocalypse” texting course (optional, one-time) and a $29/month coaching subscription with a 7-day trial. Skip both optional charges and your total stays at $65 flat.

The Obsession Method: Best if you want to build deeper attraction with someone specific

Use this if:

• You are meeting women but struggling to build real attraction and connection — you want to understand why
• You want a genuine skill, not a set of scripts — you are willing to do workbook exercises over two or three weeks
• You prefer a course grounded in real relationship research (appreciation-based attraction, Gottman-tradition dynamics)
• You want one-time pricing with no recurring billing at checkout
• You like video-based learning but also want a companion workbook to practice between sessions

The method: Eight video modules teach you a specific skill: how to notice what a particular woman genuinely values and express real appreciation in a way that lands. Kate Spring grounds the method in couples research — the same appreciation-and-specific-attention dynamics that Gottman’s work and Sue Johnson’s EFT tradition document. A 50-page companion workbook turns the lessons into drills you practice. Two bonuses (a texting PDF and an approach video module) add practical extras.

Strength: The appreciation skill is real and well-grounded — this is not a magic phrase but a communication habit built over consistent practice. The workbook is where the real change happens; it makes you apply the lesson instead of just watching. No recurring billing at checkout keeps the cost clean at $69.

Weakness: The “obsession” name and sales page significantly oversell. The actual course teaches a steady, multi-week habit of genuine appreciation — not a single trigger or secret switch. The private Facebook group is quiet and is not a functional coaching community. The text-game bonus is standard dating-blog material. If you want scripts for meeting strangers rather than a connection skill for women you already know, this is the wrong course.

Cost reality: $69 one-time for all eight modules, the workbook, and two bonuses. After checkout: a $37 “Deep Connection” module and a $19 “Relationship Maintenance” bundle. Both are optional and easy to skip. No recurring billing showed at the standard checkout. Your real cost is $69 unless you choose otherwise.

Which one should you choose?

Pick The Dating Apocalypse if:

• Meeting women is the bottleneck — you want more approaches, better openers, and cleaner follow-up
• You want a coaching group available as you practice real-world skills
• A printable script manual and a day-by-day plan through six modules fits how you learn
• 2010-era pickup framing would put you off — you want modern, direct language

Pick The Obsession Method if:

• You meet women but struggle to build real attraction once the conversation starts
• You want a grounded appreciation skill you practice over weeks, not a set of scripts to copy
• No recurring billing and a companion workbook fit your preference
• You want material backed by real relationship research rather than a coaching team’s approach framework

Consider free alternatives first if:

• You have not yet read Mark Manson’s “Models” — it covers approach philosophy and genuine attraction at a fraction of the cost of either course
• Free YouTube channels on dating fundamentals already give you enough to act on — a paid course adds value only if you want structured, sequenced material you will follow start to finish

Can you use both?

You could, but the overlap is low. These courses serve different stages, not different versions of the same stage. If you have never approached a stranger and do not know what to say, The Dating Apocalypse addresses that directly. Once you are regularly meeting women, The Obsession Method’s appreciation skill becomes the useful next layer.

If you want to sequence them: The Dating Apocalypse first ($65) to build approach reps, The Obsession Method second ($69) to build connection depth = $134 combined, two separate 60-day refund windows. Both are optional from the start — the only reason to do both is if you genuinely need both stages.

Real talk

The EPS numbers here tell an unusual story. The Dating Apocalypse has EPS $832.31 and gravity 0.11. The Obsession Method has EPS $68.82 and gravity 6.35. EPS reflects commission per completed sale, not buyer satisfaction or volume. High EPS with very low gravity means the product pays out well per sale but has been purchased by far fewer buyers at the market level. The Obsession Method’s gravity of 6.35 — significantly higher than TDA’s 0.11 — signals meaningful buyer volume and less unknown risk.

What this means practically: The Obsession Method has a longer track record of market-tested buyers. The Dating Apocalypse is newer, with a coaching group and a modern framing that are real differentiators, but much less market feedback. Neither EPS figure tells you whether the course will work for you — only working through the material and doing the exercises will answer that.

Both have 60-day ClickBank-honored refunds. If you are unsure, buy the one that fits your current stage, work through it for 30 days, and use the refund window if it does not move the needle. Watch the optional extras on both before you close out of the checkout page.